Philosophy

Sleep Is A Learned Skill

Gentle Sleep Coaching helps you teach this.

Parenting is full of important decisions and sleep coaching is one of them. The gift of sleep is one of the best lifelong skills you can give your child. As a parent, you do your best when you are energetic and emotionally present. When you are tired, it is much harder to offer your child the energy and enthusiasm you know you are capable of.

As parents we sometimes assume that sleeping is a developmental milestone that comes naturally, yet healthy sleep habits are a learned skill. Like any skill, it requires coaching and practice. As parents, we teach our kids life skills all the time, so it is perfectly appropriate to gently and safely coach your child on how to get to sleep.

Gentle Sleep Coaching

The Gentle Sleep Coach philosophy was developed by Kim West LCSW-C, The Sleep Lady® because she found so many parents had difficulty following through with a sleep coaching program that they feared will damage their child emotionally or filled them with so much guilt they couldn’t follow through.

The approach I use is a gentler alternative for families who emotionally or philosophically resist letting their babies cry it out: for families who tried “Ferber” (controlled crying) and it didn’t work, and for families who let their baby cry-it-out earlier but now find it doesn’t help. It is also for families who believe in co-sleeping but find that their children aren’t really sleeping all that well, even nestled snugly with their parents. Or for families who did co-sleep for a few months to a few years and now want the family bed to revert back to the marital one.

There is no right or wrong method; it is all about what works best for you and your family. I can not guarantee no crying at all, no one really can. My goal is to have as little crying as possible. I encourage parents to be loving and responsive but to allow the child the room to learn this vital life skill of putting themselves to sleep. This supports the development of a secure attachment between parent and child.

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Common questions:

Do I need to stop breastfeeding to get my child to sleep better?

Breastfeeding is best and it is never necessary to end breastfeeding in order to successfully sleep coach your child

Can I sleep train my child even though he sleeps in my room?

You can continue to room share while sleep coaching.

Can you sleep train a 4 month old?

I work with parents of children ages 6 months to 6 years old. Babies under 6months I will consult with parents on how to set up healthy sleep habits from the start and if appropriate how to gently shape their sleep.

Will I have to leave my child to cry?

I cannot promise no crying at all, nobody can, however I do aim to try my best to minimise any potential crying.

My methods  encourage and nurture the bond and attachement children have with their parents.